Just say yes! Not every time but when it truly resonates.
I have SHIFTED my life so many times over the years. I've found that when it resounds with my values, it meets my “system requirements”, and it also stretches me - I say “Fuck yeah, let’s go!”.
This may be the shortlist, but this way of thinking has brought me to:
Leaving the house at 16 years old
Took me to Miami twice actually
Quit a job and got pancakes
I dropped out of college 2/3rds in to the first year
Quit my $80k/year job to start an IT business
Brought me to Cuba for my 33rd birthday
Took me to win a charity for vacation 7th wheel
Building a tiny house on wheels that I’ve not yet lived in
Moving after 30+ years in farm country to live in the big city of Chicago
Living vanlife for 30+ days and roadtripping all over the US
Riding ATVs and spending time with Florida Georgia Line
Dressing like Elvii (plural Elvis) in Nashville and raising $2500 for St Jude
Got me to go 161 mph in a Lamborghini and to the top of Pikes Peak
Took me to Atlanta where I met INC5000 winners, raced Porsche and met Horst Schulze
Needless to say, I’m going to have some great STORIES to tell. And that is what real life and real happiness is about, the EXPERIENCES of life - GOOD and BAD.
And YES! there was fear, anxiety, and nerves THROUGHOUT all of these experiences — but I did it ANYWAY. And yes, sometimes shit has definitely not worked out to plan or I realized it wasn’t what I thought — and that is OKAY. You can change your mind and change it back. Did the great scientists get it right the first 100 times? No, they tried thousands of combinations to find what worked.
Our brains are wired to protect us, to keep us safe from harm. And so we often focus on perfection, indecision, worry, we overthink, we’d rather research than act. How do you know which decision is right? You FUCKING don't, just go! Take chances, take risks - you will NEVER know until you try! Decide for YOU, not for your parents, not for society.
“The secret of change is to focus ALL of your energy, not on fighting the OLD, but on BUILDING the NEW.” - Socrates
We are all going to die. Our world is kind of fucked up. Life is fucking hard. And we have no CONTROL of these things. But I realized that don’t want to REGRET not trying, not doing, not experiencing and so I’m taking risks and I’m changing perspective.
You can do whatever YOU want and whatever makes you (pointed finger) HAPPY! move.build.give.